Today, let’s look at something that everyone dreads, from marketers to teenagers to men and women from all walks of life.
REJECTION
People go out of their way to avoid it. Why is it such a terrible fear? I mean, so someone tells you no or you find out that the guy or gal that you like doesn’t return your feelings, so what!
But to many people, it does matter and they feel horrible when something that they want is denied. It could have something to do with the way humans live inside their heads. We all want to be accepted, to be part of the “in crowd” or be perceived as someone special, but within the silence of our heads, all we can hear is the little voice that tells us that we’re wrong, that that is a bad choice or that we will fail!
That little voice is what writers call the “inner-editor” and is how we have taught ourselves to deal with all of the varied input that our brains receive every day. Because we are thinking beings, we tend to put things on autopilot so that we can concentrate on the things that we enjoy. The inner voice is your autopilot.
When our desires are met with rejection, it puts up such a howling! Because our hopes and our fears are internal to us, it tries to justify the rejection by giving it a reason. It gets that reason from our own fears. What you can do, however, is refuse to listen! That little voice is you. At least, it is a part of you.
Don’t let the beginning of this post get you down, though, there are many varied ways to overcome the fear of rejection and any other fears that you may be living with. One that works with the majority of people is positive affirmation. When the little voice says something negative – reject it and replace it with something positive! It is a conditioned response between you and the rest of the world and since it is internal, only you can change it.
Turn your autopilot to a positive wavelength by affirming a different belief!
Rejection happens every day and can have many varied reasons. If you sent in a manuscript and got rejected, it might have nothing at all to do with your writing, maybe the publisher had too many stories that filled that particular niche. Or, if no one buys what you are selling it might be confusing ad copy that is turning off potential customers. If the guy or gal you like doesn’t return the feelings, don’t let that little voice put it all onto you – maybe they just got out of a bad relationship and aren’t ready to look at anyone in that special way right now!
O.k. this post isn’t meant to be a lecture, but a call for change – don’t fear rejection, learn from it in business and in life.
Comments are welcome.
